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Friday, December 31, 2004

Should Someone become a Mother at Age 67?

The headlines have been flooded with the news that a 67-year old woman in Romania is pregnant with twins after receiving fertility treatments to ward off menopause for the past 9 years. When will we put an age limit on how old a woman should be to give birth? I am all for freedom of choice, but what about the choice of those twins who may end up taking care of their mother and father before they are even old enough to date. These kids very well may end up watching their parents deteriorate during their most precious moments of growing up.

I am a mom and can relate to the desire of wanting "your own" children, however, I feel sometimes science is pushing the envelope for recognition. I also feel that having children in your 60's and I am sure soon it will be the 70's it is a selfish act without regard to how those children will feel. These kids will love them because they are their parents. But, at some point in time we need to say that for the emotional welfare of the kids, "You are too old to become a new mom."

You can check out this story on BBC News.

Wednesday, December 29, 2004

Private Party Strippers, What Goes on in There?

Strippers, strippers, strippers. They can be male, female, straight, gay, bisexual, thin, fat, big-breasted or well-endowed. What goes on in a strip club is many times public knowledge for all who are in the club and agencies that can be monitoring the club's activities. But what goes on when a stripper comes to your home, hotel room or anywhere else that you might request their services?

As you may well know by now, I do sex toy parties on a part-time basis. I bring 3 years experience and education, hundreds of parties and many hours of hearing and seeing women's and men's issues regarding sex. I have never seen a female stripper at a private party for men, however, I was somewhat shocked by what I saw when a male stripper performed for women.

I was asked to do a sex toy party as part of a bachelorette party which was being held in a hotel room. The hostess did inform me that strippers would be there after the party so I would need to finish up by a certain time. Well the bride-to-be was late leaving me little time to do the party, so I was invited to stay while the strippers performed and the ladies would give me their orders after. I stayed and what I saw somewhat shocked and surprised me.

The stripper performed for about 15 minutes. Then he announced to the ladies that he would give private parties in the bedroom (which was a separate room within the hotel room) for 10 minutes at $10. I wasn't sure what he would do, because he was already giving lap dances to the ladies during his show. He grabbed his bag and went in the bedroom, one at a time, many of the ladies would go in and then come out. When they came out their hair was a mess, their bras were missing and their pants were unzipped, unbuttoned or their belts were not in all the loops.

I am not a prude by any means, but have never seen anything like this before. Many of these ladies were married. None of the ladies would reiterate what exactly went on in that room, but it was clear the stripper was up their shirt and in their pants.

I would love to hear everyone's comments about your stripper experiences. Does this go on with female strippers? And ladies if you have been in that "private room" with a male stripper we all would love to know, "What goes on in There?"

Sunday, December 26, 2004

Changing Your Life in 365 Days

The holidays are a time we visit with family and friends. Many of which we don't see on a regular basis, but do so because it is expected. I always get depressed after the holidays. I guess alot of people do, that is why everyone tends to drink more. We run around for weeks like chickens with our heads cut off and in a matter of hours it's over. Reality sets in that the party is over and now we have to get back to the reality of trying to pay off the bills we incurred before we create new ones next year.

After the initial after Christmas depression subsides we look forward to the new year with optimism. This will be the year I lose the weight, or stop smoking, or get a better job and so on and so on. Many of which will be forgotten by the time the New Year's Hangover goes away.

I have decided for the first time in my life I will set those goals, write them down where I see them everyday and devote the entire year to accomplishing each one, one by one. I am challenging myself to see what would happen if I succeeded in accomplishing each one and how my life might change within a one year period of time. Imagine how different your life could be 365 days from now if you actually accomplished the things you have been talking about all your life.

Make your lists and work on those things everday, I would love to hear from everyone this same time next year on the changes in your personal, professional and financial lives.

Thursday, December 23, 2004

Poem of the Week

I thought it would be a nice addition to give everyone a poem of love, friendship and/or relationship every week. These are all original poems that my fiancee has written to me over the years. This is a great way to share how you feel about that special loved one in your life.

A Feast for the Senses
The sight of your face on a bright sunny day,
The soft, supple feel of your flesh
The sound of your voice ringing deep in my ears
The sweet, precious smell of your breath
The taste of your kisses stay wet on my lips
all five of my senses are deeply fulfilled,
with you I long to be
I keep you always near my heart
even when you are not with me.

Successful Vaginal Stimulation

After years of talking to women about sex, I have learned a few things that women do and do not want from their man. The first and foremost issue is that vaginal stimulation should not feel invasive. It is very difficult for a woman to get aroused when she feels like someone's entire hand (or anything else) is going to come up and out through their mouth. Call me blunt, however, I have learned that when it comes to sex, people want to be told the truth and you can disregard the sugar coating. So now let's get to the meat of the matter, so to speak.

All of the nerve endings that are in a woman's vagina are in the first 1/3 of her vagina. Any activity that occurs beyond that point does not increase stimulation. It only tends to take away from the other areas you are trying to please, since the woman is now concentrating on how far you are going to go. Let's recap. We want to concentrate on the clitorus and the first 1/3 of the vagina. It is as simple as that. Since most women do not have orgasms during intercourse, this fact probably contributes to this. If we did have nerve endings from beginning to end our orgasms would probably send us far into another galaxy never to return again.

I write this blog to all the individuals that feel that farther in the vagina is better. Next time you are stimulating your partner try to take your fingers, toy or whatever you typically use and simply tease the area just inside the vagina and you will soon see an increased intensity in your lady's level of vaginal sexual arousal.